It's not what you say, It's how you say it!

Good evening bloggers,

Have you ever wondered what made movies so appealing? Well I've been thinking about it lately as I've had to cut down on my movie marathons, it led me to question why I miss them so much.

It all can be related back to non-verbal communication, they have these story lines that keep us hooked but what keeps us entertained is the actors no doubt.  Acting is a very difficult art and takes great skill and talent.  Their job is to make us believe the character they are playing from every direction by portraying exactly what humans do in real life which is listen, look and react.

Non-verbal communication probably covers about 90% of the impact of your message because what you say on it's own has little meaning over how you say it.  In the same way when we're mad and arguing if we didn't use non-verbal communication to express our feelings a person wouldn't actually know how mad we are.  Some people wave their hands in anger or kick a chair, with some all it takes is a look.  Face expressions actually play a lot in communication, and this reminds me of a series I used to watch called Lie To Me.  The main character is Dr Cal. Lightman, an amazing psychologist who specializes in analyzing body language and predominantly micro-expressions.  He's usually hired for investigations because he's able to read people perfectly so they get him to talk to victims, suspects and witnesses to expose the truth behind lies.  I love watching it because I'm really bad at reading people because I always see the good in people so I can never recognize when I'm being lied to so people are always getting away with it.  Anyways here's the trailer of Lie To Me in-case your interested in checking it out:

I tend to let my communication skills down, I don't know why but I always tend to hold back, it's like I'm trying to give an impressions of someone else, who the person I'm talking to wants me to be.  I always tend to be polite, well mannered, not too out spoken and sometimes when I'm talking I may come across as not sincere enough or give mixed signals because my words give one message but non-verbal I'm giving a completely different one.  Like when my boyfriend gets me the wrong type of juice or picks a movie I really hate, I usually say "Thanks baby" with a forced smile but he can always read the real me and know I'm not being 100% honest.  I guess I just don't like fuss and try to avoid problems but it's not healthy and I usually just end up being misunderstood, just remember it's always better to be true to yourself

We can all work on our non-verbal communication to help us and the receiver by giving the right message so they get the right message, after all they do say actions speak louder than words.

From Sarah with love x